Choose your feelings

I was watching Seventh Heaven earlier before I slept. The episode was great but the Reverend said something about choosing your feelings. Now, just the thought of it, it's really hard. Especially for me because I feel what I feel. In the episode, the Reverend suggested that you can choose your feelings. If you're upset but you still have to go to work, you can set that aside. And when you come home, you can feel it and even cry about it for an hour. Let all your emotions out but limit yourself to that time. Is this possible? Can we really choose our feelings? Can we really set the time when to feel it and how long it should last? I'm not tough so this is impossible for me.


I think dealing with our feelings right there and then is what makes us human. And if dealing with it causes bad things in your life like maybe cause you your job because you lost focus on your task or had a failing mark in an exam because you forgot to study, that really sucks. Forgive me for my words, but yes, it's bad but I guess that's how God planned it.

Maybe it's suppose to give you a lesson. And maybe you needed to learn that lesson. Problems come but in time, they also disappear. It's just how you handle it as it comes. With regards to feelings, do what you think is right. Think it through, don't just rely on your heart. Watch a movie, or clean your apartment, or go outside. Whatever suits you, as long as you move on.

the most effective way to get over disappointment.

disappointment. it exist. you can't do anything about it. it gets you off guard. unprepared. it just happens. you cope up and then what? you forget? but can you? especially when there are words like reminisce or remember. it's hard. so, how can you get over disappointment? for me, the most effective way to get over disappoint is "a lot" of things. a lot of things like I curse a lot, I cry a lot, I eat a lot, I think a lot, I would like to sleep a lot but I can't because I have work. amongst these "a lot" of things, I fear thinking a lot because when that happens, I begin generating decisions and realizations. and I hate it. you shouldn't decide when you're mad and it is unfair to make a realization while you're mad.


but why do disappointments occur? I'm not really sure. one thing that's going through my mind is "too much expectations". it's the best answer for me, for now. second would be, inconsiderate people. this is effin stupid but there are people like this. the best solution is to talk and listen. I'm not saying confront the person, find someone you could talk to, one who's willing to listen as well. may or may it not be the same person you're disappointed at. if you can't find anyone, talk to God. or if you still can't do that, write it. in paper or blog about it (like this one). that way, it may not have removed the hurt but it helps lighten up the weight.

being disappointed is never easy. as for me, i usually take "a lot" of time to be alone and think. i rarely talk to avoid coming into tears. yes, I know that's lame, but I easily cry. that's why I need time.